Forgiveness is not forgetting an injustice done; it is the understanding that allows us to set aside the emotional impact of that injustice pertaining to ourselves. When we no longer hold those emotions, and have understanding for the person, we have forgiven them.
--Moon Singer
Easier said than done. It will always be hard to understand what made the other person commit the injustice when that injustice signaled the collapse of everything you held dear. At best, we could learn to live with it. We could acknowledge that an injustice was committed and get rid of the anger that consumes us everytime we remember. But we could never go beyond that. The injustice will always serve as a painful reminder of what is in store for us once we agree to rebuild fractured relationships. It will insinuate itself in the most benign of conversations; in situations that have the barest parallel to the one in which the injustice was done. And then we understand; it was never meant to be. It’s not worth it.
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How timely for me. I've been thinking of the past wrongs done to me by my ex. I'm not fully healed yet, I know. But I'm almost there, I think.
Good for you, Tess. The hardest part I think is remembering...but after that, when you're totally healed, you're good to go. :)
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